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well sweetheart all I can say is this...if it would take someone really awesome for you to forget your integrity, you already have

Yeah....who am I kiddin'? I don't think there is a right answer in this case......insecurity will never see rationality.

So I take it your hubby is not into you having a platonic relationship either?

It's a shame that so much worry has to ruin the love of life. I'm at the point in life that excessive worrying is not on my list of things to do any longer. I can't live like this.

I have platonic relationships regardless.

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"Be who you are and say what you feel... Because those that matter... Don't mind...And those that mind... Don't matter."

So, does that mean I should disregard my wife's concerns totally and just deal with the relentless drama?

It's all up to me I guess. There's just no way to convince otherwise unless I stop going where I go by changing jobs or professions. I don't think I should have to do that. I think trust is non-existent in our relationship now, and it'll never rebuild unless drastic measures are taken to change my lifestyle(away from home job).
I made a pretty penny last year.....I'm not ready to give that up.
It's time for some major decision making though, and someone will lose, and I know it'll be me.

awww babe I am not gonna advise you or attempt to cos before I did I would need to ask stuff like have you ever cheated and I dont wish to do that in an open forum so please dont respond to this.
I cant walk in your wifes shoes to know where her head is at, With some women its a natural thing to twist things up and around inside...I have never met her so I dont know. But I do know that if you have given her cause then it is going to be really difficult for her to overcome the green eyed monster

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"Be who you are and say what you feel... Because those that matter... Don't mind...And those that mind... Don't matter."

Just being on this computer alot gives her cause. Karaoke gives her cause. A change in my personal grooming gives her cause. Casual conversation between the both of us gives her cause. I need stimulating conversation to survive....not dead-air.
I think she's the one who's really ready to pack it in, but is in denial of her own desires.
I won't say anymore on this.....sometimes I just need someone to hear me out, and the one who should be listening is too blinded by negativity.
Thanks for lending an ear and a voice.

one way or the other I hope it works out. But before you walk away make sure you are prepared for all that goes with it. I am not talking financial here either. If you make the decision to walk away from your relationship be prepared to go through the grieving process. Its the death of a relationship there will be the same process in different degrees to go through as there would be if it were a death of a loved one. Prepare yourself for that cos if you dont it will screw your head up

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"Be who you are and say what you feel... Because those that matter... Don't mind...And those that mind... Don't matter."

if memory serves me correctly, this is either the same problem you had last year, or a secondary one that's very familiar, Perry!

It IS hard to be fond of other women, while involved with one. Even if that fondness is platonic, best friend like or brother/sister stuff... I've gotten into more arguements with older relationships I've been in STRICTLY because of that.

Bottom line, the typed word is so easy to misconstrue. Where you might say fondness, but are referring to an adorartion that is honest but harmless, she might see more meaning in the words, and suddenly, it's a major problem with hurt feelings.

You need to sit down with her and describe what you're really feeling, and why you used the words you did... and maybe sit back and reflect a bit about how to keep this from happening in the future. It sucks that in the land of freedom, we sometimes have to censor ourselves a bit to keep the peace! Not that you DON'T have the right to say what you want, but sometimes, is it WISE to do so, especially if the wrong person gets the wrong idea!

And in no way were you trying to make that happen!

Thanks Matt. Yes, this is the same problem as last year....you'd think I would've learned by now to not provoke another incident.
Although my wife isn't into computers and doesn't really see what I do here, I didn't really consider that she would take a sneak peek.
I should be at fault here once again.
I'm problematical it seems.  :yes:

I'm just too open emotionally and it always spells t-r-o-u-b-l-e.

I tried to talk about it with her tonight, and her demeanor is irrational....she's convinced I'm a cheater, so there's not much more I can say.
She's been saying hurtful things to me ever since I started karaoking.
Tonight, she said just because some kj lady lied to me and said I was a good singer, I'm falling all over her.
That makes me wonder if I'm the real idiot now.

Maybe I should've stayed my old boring self inside of her little cage?

Then we could grow old together as a couple of small minded people.

Im sure there are some who might disagree with me...Nothing against you Perry, But you how people have different opinions...etc.   But what I am trying to say is....I have listened to at least two of your songs...and In my personal opinion you are a good singer!!!!!

Now before anyone Jumps my case!!  LMAO  I am being serious.....It has been a while and I therefore cannot remember what the songs were...But yes!! you sounded good to me on those two songs I listened to.    

I guess I need to make myself go over to the song stage and take another listen just to confirm what I am saying.....

I'll be back to let you know......  LOL

brb  :)

Perry hon you can hold your head up you sing fine

Does your wife sing? Any chance you can work on a duet with her?

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"Be who you are and say what you feel... Because those that matter... Don't mind...And those that mind... Don't matter."

Ok...Just got back from listening to parts of three different songs and what I said is confirmed....you sound fine Perry my friend.  :hi5:

Sounds like maybe your wife is feeling a bit insecure, maybe she don't like other women giving you compliments.  Could be she just needs you to let her know that she has nothing to worry about as far as other women taking you away from her.

It took me seven years to convince my own wife that she has me wrapped around her little finger and that I am not going anywhere!!!  I tell her everyday atleast 10 times per day how much I love her and how much she turns me on, and how sexy she is, and I constantly give her compliments and this has been going on for 16 years....And still tell her that I am very much in love with her.   To this very day I treat my wife the same as I did when we first fell in love with each other.

My point is....Women are very insecure for some reason and as much as I go over board with all of this....She needs it!!!!!!

 She now knows that no woman no matter how good looking or wealthy or whatever the case may be....NO WOMAN CAN TAKE ME AWAY FROM HER!!!!!  LMAO


It took my wife SEVEN YEARS!!!! to finally get this through her head!!!!!!

And so now everything is ok.....She has guy friends that she can joke around with and I have female friends that I can joke around with and everything is ok as my wife is now secure and knows that no matter what...I AM ALL HERS!!!!!!!

With that being said....maybe your wife has some insecure feelings that makes her not like you singing and getting compliments from other women....And that is natural according to my experience!!!  LMAO


Perry you sing just fine, so as long as you enjoy it then keep on keeping on!!!

And like Vicki just said...Try to get her to sing with you....maybe if she will sing some duets with you...Then maybe she will accept your singing/karaoke hobby a little better.

If she is like my cousins wife....It will never happen!!! my cousins wife won't sing if her life depended on it!!!!

But all you can do is try, Good Luck buddy.  :handshake:

Okay first off Perry... Since I have been on SS you have been one of my favorite voices. I don't fluff people... and many of your performances have knocked my socks right off. Heck if you lived near me I would go to karaoke with you, I'm usually solo too. Your wife is jealous, yeah that much is obvious... don't let it take you down though. I had my ex husband listen to one of the duets I did with Percy, Here We Go Again... he told me "No offense, you've got an okay voice but it pales in comparison to his". It was like a kick in the teeth, seriously. I told Mike what he had said and he told me not to listen to him, and said that when he listens to that duet he's listening to me. Guess who I decided to listen to? I realize how hard it is to not let words get to you... but you have an awesome voice, and someone saying you don't doesn't mean jack.  :hug:

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Te audire no possum. Musa sapientum fixa est in aure. (I can't hear you. I have a banana in my ear.)

You need to realize.  You aren't supposed to be trying to reason with females.  You are just supposed to stalk them !  

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Northeast United States runner up for the "Singing Hall of Shame".

I am waiting for you to stalk me Kappy...no-one has ever tried...could be I scare folk...

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"Be who you are and say what you feel... Because those that matter... Don't mind...And those that mind... Don't matter."

Take the Hint Kappy....Vicki wants YOU!!!!!


Where is that sign...you know the one with uncle sam on it!!! Replace uncle sams picture with one of Vicki and there ya go!!!!  LMAO

Dang!!! Some guys have all the luck.  :)

Where's Milo?? She said she was gonna share some pictures with me, and I have not even seen her or them pictures!!  :bawling:  LMAO

I guess that's what got me into this mess....being the sociopath that I am.

Vicki,  buy me a round-trip ticket to NZ and Australia and I'll stop off and stalk you for lunch during the trip.  I'll even chip in 10% on the price of your PA stands and bring them along !

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Thanks Jesse, Vicki, and Lisa.

Although it doesn't bother me much about the singing quality here at SS....if it did, I would ask for critique.
What bothers me is how someone who claims to want to be with me can say the things that she does, and still expects me to have good feelings about her???

Whatever I did in the past should not have caused this current drama.

Although, my words fond: full of affection for....and adore: worship.....when referring to the kj didn't help matters any.
She took it as me being in love with the kj because she didn't know the correct meaning of those words when I asked her.

And now that I think of it, I'm a moron for ever having revealed this at KS to begin with. I'll get what I deserve.

you've got an absolute point about her saying the things she's saying, and how you're supposed to feel about her. Just understand that she's REACTING to a supposed threat. Even if that threat is heightened by her own imagination and fears.

It's VERY hard to come back to a relationship when one side is being terribly negative. I know I can't do that... I'm not one of those guys that fights and then can make up and it's all better. Sheesh... that's impossible to me. After a fight, it takes me WEEKS to work up the nerve to want to be close to them!

I get terribly vulnerable when chastized or treated badly... and my first reaction is to close off everything! It takes time to lower those shields and see if it's safe to venture out again...

People that cut to the bone like that always bothered me... as they're making the situation so much worse by being so insecure and lashing out!