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The staff fills my beer glass (max 3 times) and takes care of my wife's needs (usually water with a lemon).
There's a big difference between tipping the wait staff for the work they did for you, i.e., voluntarily, and the owner coming to you at the end of the night and saying you owe the bar $X, like what's happening to the OP.
The bartenders at the bar where I worked were on a tip share system, so all tips went into a big pool and they were tipped out based on the hours they worked.
My tips were my tips.
In the OP's scenario, if my $35-40 that I averaged in tips went into the pool on a Saturday night, where the bartenders routinely made $300-400, I would walk out of there with my $175 pay plus like $230-300 in tips. That doesn't make much sense. Nor does it make sense if the KJ is making more tips than the bartenders for the KJ to owe them money. KJ tips can swing pretty widely in my experience, bartender tips were always pretty steady.
But still, bottom line, the bar owner has 0% right to tell the KJ what he does with his money. He does, however, have the right to fire them for insubordination
If I was fired because I refused to give the bar my tips, I would definitely go talk to a lawyer about a contingency arrangement.